#404 – What are you looking for in "being realistic?"Uncertainty is difficult to handle. The markets go haywire, supply-chain managers freak out, baseball coaches lose their cool. And your Ego? It can't handle it.Will your son get out of jail on Tues...
#403 – What draws your Ego to authoritarianism?Your Ego (and mine) love control, certainty, and superiority. Having those things means it owns the resources, which it can give out or hoard. Being in charge, it feels safe.I was recently made "lan...
#402 – How do you grow when you dare to be disliked?Standing bold in a sea of rejection telegraphs: I don't care. Your Ego and the Ghosts then freak out––what? People reject you and you don't care?, running up and down, fanning their faces with their...
#401 – What do you gain when you prepare for the worst-case scenario?If you're the Head of Crisis Prevention at an amusement park, preparing for all the worst-case scenarios possible, plausible, and unforeseeable is the smart thing to do. It's your j...
#400 – How do you find your way in chaos?If your life can (and probably will) be influenced by a butterfly flapping its wings somewhere, what would you gain by resisting life's unfolding?Consider these pairs:"Go with the flow." "Stand your ground.""T...
#399 – How else do your Ego & Ghosts block your learning?Say you're trying to learn Arabic. When do you think you learn most: reciting declensions in a classroom? Or trying to find your way out of Cairo's Khan el-Khalili?When I bought my son his...
#398 – What do you wish others that you wouldn't want for yourself?How many times have you wished someone experienced something you wouldn't, in a million years, want for yourself?You'd like to say, "zero!," but you know you can't. If humans wer...
#397 – How do you expand when you go from forgiveness to gratitude?If thanking your "enemies" sounds radical, it's because it is. It's the ultimate shift in perspective: it allows you to go from victim, to lucky recipient of gifts.Granted: some exper...
#396 – How is your "just in case" attitude ruining your potential?In the present, the future is unknown. That drives your Ego and the Ghosts nuts: if not everything's planned to a T, they freak out and push you to do the same.If you give in, though,...
#395 – What do you gain when you forget what you know?How much does your knowledge weigh you down, when what you have in front of you is a problem you've never seen before?My bet? A lot. Exactly like your past does: you are this, you aren't that. You...