#464 – What part of "no reason" freaks you out?The realization that things happen simply because they do––and they'll keep happening no matter how much protection you've racked up––can be brutal. It can make you feel alone against the world.It can al...
#463 – How do your relationships strengthen when you stop "trying to help?"When you see someone you love suffering, you want to jump in and save them. It’s the most natural thing to do, no? It’s also toxic for a relationship.This morning I realized m...
#462 – How can you receive feedback with equanimity?"Feedback is a gift," they say. Sure. But how can you appreciate it for what it is, and not the attack on your integrity your Ego takes it for?That's the question I grappled with this morning, refl...
#461 – What are you saying when you pray for better?If "someday, somewhere" is your motto, you'll never have peace because there'll always be a different "someday, somewhere" to aspire to.That's what I realized yesterday, when I learned that moving o...
#460 – What do you hope for when you blow your life out?When life feels monotonous and too "normal," some people freak out––is that it? we ask ourselves.On a recent evening walk near the beach, where the new trend is rollerblading, an unsettling thou...
#459 – How does your Ghost of Misplaced Shame keep you under-being?If you’ve ever wanted the earth to swallow you right after taking a bold step, it’s not you — it’s your Ghost of Misplaced Shame.When the idea first appears (“Yeah, I’ll ask for that...
#458 – When will you stop hiding in plain sight?One instinctive response to feeling in danger is to hide. If you felt in danger a lot growing up it's only natural that you still revert to hiding when things feel iffy.On a call yesterday, I told one o...
#457 – What's possible when you stop responding to other people's Egos?How many times have you agreed with what someone––out of their Ego’s fear––believed?As a coach, I learned to notice when I might be colluding with a client’s Ego or Ghosts.For exa...
#455 – What happens when you love those who hurt you?Loving your enemies is revolutionary. It moves you from “I can’t be happy because they hurt me” to “I’m happy because I feel only love.”It also sets you free.When my son was thr...
#455 – What if the only way through is gratitude?Feelings of injustice always come from the Ego. It wants you to clench your fists and reject reality.That was me these past few days. I wanted to take my son’s case public, to seek legal assistance — s...