Like many roads, my local roads are in poor condition. They are full of holes and are an issue for all vehicles. Today I noticed that they are filling in the holes. They have a large nozzle that sprays a filling into them. The technology allows traff...

When something isn’t working in our life then it can be very easy to feel or believe that it will never work. This applies to both personal and professional situations. When another relationship fails then we can believe that no relationship will wor...

We are very good at deceiving ourselves (this is called liar remember). We tell ourselves stories, and create narratives, reasons and excuses. We look outside of our choices and look to blame something or someone else.   Anything. As long as it’s not...

Habits – From Good to Bad What was once a suggestion became an intention which became a habit. That habit stayed with me and became part of my identity, it was ‘who I am’. I then discovered that it wasn’t helpful now. Times change. We change. Our nee...

I’m working with more men than before.   A friend of mine, who has sent men my way, offered some interesting insights. She believed that what I offered is not like ‘therapy’. It’s not what a lot of people expect when they think of therapy. We base ou...

What are you scared to try?   I trained as an actor. I went to drama school for three years and then spent the next ten years pursuing a career as an actor. In many ways, I failed to achieve what I set out to do. The reason? Fear. I can appreciate no...

Therapy for business? Why would a business work with me, a therapist, for dealing with their work-related issues? First of all, let’s get the obvious out of the way – you’re a person, an individual. If you are the business or part of a larger team yo...

Comparisons. One of the common issues that I work on with clients is with making comparisons – comparing themselves with others.   That’s not the issue.   It is the conclusions that we draw from that comparison that is the issue. All too commonly it...

It’s very common that at some point in our life we encounter a person who changes the way we think about something. It may happen regularly of course. The more open we are then the more we are likely to allow these new influences to change us. Metaph...

Planning is a useful and helpful skill. It gives us the opportunity to prepare for a variety of outcomes or possibilities that may be different from what we might expect. There’s a phrase that I became aware of a few years ago – “No plan survives fir...